Graceful Resolutions

One week into the new year and there are people who have already given up on the things they had resolved to do, be or work on this year.  I get it, you start out strong but for whatever reason are unable to do what you wanted to to the extent that you planned, so you quit.  Welcome the first wave of new years failures.  But it doesn’t have to be that way.  Give yourself some grace.

I was going to use the first of the year to start another round of 100 days of 30 minutes of exercise.  I mean it’s 30 minutes, everyone has time for that, I can do that, I will do that. Right?

Enter monster head cold, busy work week, terrible weather etc.  I walked the first day and then just didn’t get it done the next couple.  I could elaborate on my series of reasonable excuses, but instead I choose to focus on giving myself grace.

I don’t need to justify my inability to come out of the gates swinging to myself or an anonymous internet.  What I do need to do is not let a couple days of trying to get better by taking it easy, derail my whole focus.  This too shall pass.  In the past I have beat myself up and powered through workouts, even when I’m on deaths door health wise, and in the long run burned out too soon.

Grace in the Christian faith has several definitions, it is the free and unmerited favor of God, and can also be defined as mercy, clemency or pardon.  It is this definition I seek when trying to focus on myself.  I will pardon myself from not straining to meet my own goals and resolutions to the standard I have set for myself, and with any luck, the sun will rise tomorrow, I will feel better, and I can once again pick up the challenge to better myself.

How about you?  Are you all or nothing?  Or can you give yourself some mercy too?

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Baby New Year… resolutions in baby steps.

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On new year’s eve, we celebrated the coming of 2018 kid style, with my children and nieces, ages 6, 5, 3, 2, and 2 with balloons, confetti poppers, “kid wine” and cake even though it wasn’t anyone’s birthday.  All of the kids love singing happy birthday and blowing out candles, so at my nieces request, that is what we did.  And we sang happy new year to the fictitious “Baby New Year”.  This exercise seemed a little silly at the time but now 4 days into the new year when my resolutions have really had time to solidify in my mind, I think I am glad that we did, it signified a fresh start.

The Baby New Year or rebirth of the year is a great time to clear your mind and your plate of the past and refocus your energy towards the things that are most important to you.  This year I am choosing themes to guide me along my Road to 100 challenge, they are “Grace” and “Self-care”.  These are the goals I plan on reaching through themes of 100.

Grace

If you are the kind of person/mother/daughter/employee/friend that I am, this is a hard one for you.  Giving yourself the same amount of grace you would grant a stranger can be challenging.  I tend to be much more critical and hold higher expectations for myself than I do anyone else.  This year, I will cut myself some slack.  I will try to apologize unnecessarily less often (like when someone comes in my house and it’s a mess.)  I will not beat myself up if in fact, I am not giving 100% to everything in my purview.  I will be good enough for myself.

Self-care

I know I am not alone in having shelved my personal needs in order to survive hard times.  When the number one goal is to keep your ship sailing, the little things (like showers, sleep, diet and exercise) tend to fall by the wayside.  It might be that I am thoroughly lodged in adulthood at this point, but years of putting myself last have finally caught up to me.  This year, I will dedicate a little more energy toward making time (and money) available for the things I need as a person to be able to continue to sail the ship.  Here’s to the goals; mind, body and spirit, striving for less stress and more fun.

Feel free to follow along and join me if you like, 2018 Baby, is going to be a good year!

The Road To 100

The road to 100 is long and rocky.  It’s a rocky road, it’s a result of Rocky Road.  Rocky Road ice cream, m&m’s, stress, having 3 babies in 5 years, genetics and a lifetime of poor decisions and indecision.

The Road to 100

The road to 100 is long and rocky.  It’s a rocky road, it’s a result of Rocky Road.  Rocky Road ice cream, m&m’s, stress, having 3 babies in 5 years, genetics and a lifetime of poor decisions and indecision.  I am not blaming anyone or anything.  I know this is all on me. Other people can do it, other people have direction and willpower.  At times, I do too.  Other people have goals and at times, I do too.  I have set goals and achieved them.  I have set goals and failed to achieve them.  The purpose of this blog is to set new goals and to hold me accountable to achieve them because, even if no one reads this, I will, and if anyone should be accountable to anyone, it’s me to myself.

Recently, I wrote a post on the Colorado Springs Mom’s Blog about feeling lost in my indecision about what come’s next if life.  After having worked hard through my 20’s to achieve the goals of a youthful minded kid, I find myself not knowing what to do next with my life.  You can read that article here.

In the post I ask if I missed the memo on what happens after you reach all of those initial goals, (for me) good job, beautiful family, nice house etc.  I think the answer is that you set new goals.  But this is where I struggle.  In my younger days there were career counselors, and leadership camp and a young, optimistic new bride and groom who made plans and timelines together with little concern for reality.   But those counselors today are not so easily identified, those camps not so easily found and that bride and groom are no longer quite so optimistic.  Life and time it seems will do that to you.  So I set out doing what I always do; Googling goal setting, weight loss, marriage tips etc.  Except I didn’t find what I am looking for because no one knows what my goals are.  Obviously, not even me.

My life, like many people’s is multi-dimensional.  I have many balls in the air at any given time.  When things are going well, I feel like a class act at the Circus that is my life, when things are not going so well, I feel like I am rolling gutter balls in some shady, backwoods bowling league.  Keeping track of all of these things makes moving forward with intention a challenge.  So here, day by day, this blog is going to be where I come to set, work towards, log and achieve my goals.  Over the next year (ish) I plan to set and achieve goals related to 100 in the following categories, in no particular order and subject to change and refinement:

100 intentional adventures/memories with my kids

100 “dates” with my husband

100 bucket list items with my parents

100 work acts related to leadership and quality improvement

100 sales in my side hustle

100 acts of kindness/religious intentions

100 pounds

100 miles

100 posts of accountability

Wish me luck.  I am going to need it.

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